Flags, Patriotism, and Supporting Children in Understanding Symbols

Recently, some children in my area with parents who I know have young children, have started asking about the flags that have been put up in the community. Their curiosity shows just how observant young children are, quickly noticing changes in their environment. These questions give us a valuable opportunity to open up conversations about symbols, belonging, and identity in ways that are age-appropriate, inclusive, and supportive of children’s developing understanding of the world around them. In recent times, British flags have become more visible across the UK. They appear at sporting events, on public buildings, in shops, and increasingly in political spaces. For some, the flag sparks pride and a sense of unity. For others, especially when it’s displayed in the context of far-right rhetoric, it can feel divisive or unsettling. It is more upsetting when this happens, due to people having pride in the flag and being proud of what it represents.

For children, a flag is simply colours and patterns. They notice it, they point it out, they ask questions. They don’t yet attach the layers of meaning that adults do. That’s why our role as educators, parents, and carers is so important: to help children make sense of what they see in ways that promote respect, belonging, and inclusivity. It is not our role to be political with young children, but rather to create safe spaces for curiosity, conversation, and understanding, ensuring that symbols are explored through the lens of learning and community, not adult agendas.

Patriotism in a Positive Light

It’s okay to be patriotic. Pride in your country, your community, and your culture can be a source of strength and belonging. For children, recognising the British flag can be an opportunity to talk about history, teamwork, and shared identity.

At the same time, we can hold a balanced message: patriotism should never mean exclusion. Being proud of your country can sit comfortably alongside celebrating diversity and respecting other cultures and symbols too.

Supporting Children’s Understanding

Here are some ways we can help children explore the Union Flag and its meanings:

• Encourage Curiosity

  When children notice flags, use it as a conversation starter: “That’s the flag of the United Kingdom. It’s made up of three different flags, like three friends joining together.”

• Celebrate Belonging and Difference

  Explore the idea of unity in the flag while also celebrating the many different flags that represent children’s family heritages.

• Explain Different Feelings

  Help children understand that symbols can mean different things to different people: some feel proud, others may feel left out. This builds empathy and awareness from an early age.

• Keep it Inclusive

  Use flags as part of a wider discussion about community, kindness, and belonging. Remind children that identity isn’t only about symbols, but also about how we treat one another.

Looking Ahead

With the rise of far-right rhetoric, we need to be mindful of how symbols are used and interpreted. But that shouldn’t stop us from embracing positive patriotism with children. By presenting flags as part of a bigger, inclusive story of who we are, we can help children grow into citizens who feel proud of their community while also respecting and celebrating difference.

Patriotism and inclusivity can go hand in hand. It’s our job to show children how.